It’s definitely an antiquated saying, but it has staying power. If you want something bad enough, you’ll go get it. We always give ourselves excuses for why we’re incapable of accomplishing our dreams. We say anything to convince ourselves we’re not good enough. It’s easier that way. At the sidelines, there’s no prospect of failure. There’s no chance that we might fall over and plummet in a complex triple jump to our dreams. You can’t lose if you don’t play the game, but you can’t win either. We always think that people find success when they put in the work, but it’s the other way around. Success finds the people who share their yearnings by going after the desired result again and again with a defiant middle finger to anyone who would call them insane. It’s for those who fail dozens, sometimes hundreds of times and don’t have the sense to call it quits. It’s for people like Kayley Pate.
Kayley has had her share of failures. Her dream was to always start a blog, but for some reason she just couldn’t get her ship to set sail. She couldn’t find her audience so she gave up, multiple times. But it didn’t stick. There was that voice in her head that kept saying “why not give it one more shot". And so she did, repeatedly until one of her shots hit nothing but net.
Kayley now has thousands of people infatuated with her every move. After what seemed like a millennium, she was finally able to successfully start Hey Pretty, a blog geared towards offering tips about style, health and beauty. The name is actually a reference to how she would become upset when she was called pretty. Because she’s always been a petite person, she was under the impression that people thought she was younger than she really was. It made her feel juvenile, so she decided to take ownership of that feeling and turn the word “pretty” into a testament to all her hard work and resolve.
Kayley takes after her mom in that she’s always been a fashionista at heart. Her time as an assistant buyer for her mother’s boutique only enhanced her love of all things style and set her off on the road to becoming a fashion connoisseur.
If you’ve got the desire to start a fashion blog, Kayley’s main piece of advice is to not give up. Do not underestimate how challenging it will be to build your own website and develop an audience that takes interest. You’ll want to quit. Don’t. Stick with it, even when it seems like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. The followers will come. When you finally get the support you’re looking for, you’ll notice a warm feeling attributed to seeing that one thing you stuck with prosper. All your struggling will be worth it.